The Bullet List {Balance and Simplify}

by Destri on December 31, 2009

If there is one thing that seems to elude mothers more than any other it would have to be finding balance.

I happen upon it every now and then, but find myself searching for it on a regular basis.  I finally came to the conclusion that it is just as much a state of mind as it is a state of being.  And one way of finding both is to simplify.

That being said, today I have a list of ideas that help me find that balance, and links to which I plan on employing this new year in the never ending search for it.

Twenty Ways to add Balance and Simplify

  • Take twenty minutes every day to turn up the music and dance with your kids.  You will fit in some cardio and play time all at once.
  • Only touch your mail once.  Pick a time of day that you can spend fifteen minutes with it;  shred it, throw it away, file it, immediately fill out bills, even if they are to be mailed later.
  • Organize your winter gear like Kim from Mom Tried It.
  • When you make dinner double the recipe and freeze half of it for a later date.
  • Commit to five minutes a day to do your make-up.  Seriously that is all you need.
  • Wake up thirty minutes earlier every morning to do something important to you.  Journal, read scriptures, drink your coffee, kiss your hubby.
  • Read this post on The Best Kept Secret to a Clean House.
  • Know what you are going to have for dinner by noon everyday.
  • Create an inspiration book like Davina for a place to keep all the ideas running around in your head.
  • Set the timer when on the computer.  And don’t cheat.
  • Don’t wash your hair everyday.  Talk to your hair dresser, they’ll agree!
  • Make your kids laugh at least once a day.  Not just a giggle, but a full belly laugh.  Nothing balances my life more than to hear my little one’s laughter.
  • Find something you love to do, and just do it.  Creativity has fed my soul in ways I never imagined.
  • Try to go to bed with a clean kitchen.  You’ll thank yourself in the morning!
  • Stop doing what you no longer find joy in.  It’s okay.  Your all grown up now, and you are allowed to change your mind.
  • Sing while you cook.  Even if your husband laughs, it will be one of your children’s favorite memories.
  • Make time.  Read this post.  I have asked you to read it before, but for those of you who didn’t I am asking again.  I promise it will help you find a little balance.
  • Have a weekly date night with your husband.  Even if you can’t leave the house, set aside one night a week for each other with something planned.  It could even be a picnic and movie on your living room floor.
  • Allow yourself imperfections.  Then except them.  Then embrace them.

Now it’s your turn, and I know how many of you are reading this!  I had better get more than five comments!!!

How do you find Balance in your life?  How have you found ways to simplify?  Please share, I need the inspiration!

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{ 31 comments… read them below or add one }

Sarah December 31, 2009 at 5:49 am

Love this post. I also a huge fan of tinted moisturizer for makeup.


Destri December 31, 2009 at 7:33 am

Oooo a little birdie told me you had a great find! I agree, two birds…one stone. Thank you for sharing!


Aubrey December 31, 2009 at 9:05 am

Great post Destri! Especially for the new year I think we are all trying to find ways to simplify and balance our lives a little more. One of my goals and ways to simplify this year is to have a baking day once a month to do freezer meals for the whole month. I’m so tired of spending all of my evenings in the kitchen! I do enjoying cooking…but I hate doing dishes…I have a lot of other things I’d rather be doing!


Destri December 31, 2009 at 9:34 am

After you talked about that I wanted to do the same.
Aubrey found a great site that helps plan freezer meals.
Here is a link


Tina December 31, 2009 at 9:41 am

I agree with the hair washing. I work out at 5 a.m. before I go to work so I can get me workouts in. But on Tuesday and Thursday evenings I go to Pilats class. So on those days I use dry shampoo…which saves me like 20 whole freaking minutes on those mornings, HALLELUJAH.
Also, I leave lists for my Hubby…so my list is shorter…that counts right?


Destri December 31, 2009 at 11:29 am

I have never used it…what brand do you use?


candace December 31, 2009 at 12:42 pm

I am ‘thee’ queen of list making. I usually do this the evening before, or take a few minutes in the morning to assess my day and then jot it all down. I do this for three reasons:

1. It keeps me from wasting time racking my brain over and over about all of the things that need to be done each day.

2. When I write my tasks down I do so in order of priority– important to-do’s always go up top. This way those things that are most esteemed are never left undone.

3. I check off each task as I go so at the end of the day I can see all that I’ve been able to accomplish (feels AMAZING!), and those less pressing things I didn’t get to I try to put somewhere near the top of tomorrow’s list.

I love your list today. It is such a wonderful way to start off the new year. Thanks!


Heather December 31, 2009 at 3:55 pm

Caught myself reading this through for the second time so thank you for sharing especially about making your kids really laugh every day.


Destri December 31, 2009 at 4:08 pm

You’re welcome, thank you for the comment.
You know it was funny a few months ago I was rolling around on the floor with my kids and they were both laughing so hard, and I was surprised at how little I had heard them laugh so hard. That full can hardly breath laugh, it’s the best.
Now I try to hear it every day.


Angie @ The Shabby Chic Cottage December 31, 2009 at 7:35 pm

Thanks for a wonderful post!


Kate December 31, 2009 at 9:08 pm

Ahh Destri, I love your lists, however, am thinking of banning mine… all I seem to do is look at the things I haven’t done rather than just enjoy the moment…so that is my one and only list this year of 2010….
1) enjoy the moment


Destri January 7, 2010 at 3:09 pm

I love that….you can never go wrong with that…


Amy December 31, 2009 at 11:45 pm

Great post! I find that if I make a list for the week, not the day I do better. I do have a daily schedule so I can keep track of the kids’ activities, but then find I do better with accomplishing the things on my list if I don’t feel the pressure on a single day. It’s worked wonders for me!


Destri January 7, 2010 at 3:10 pm

I had never thought of that but yes your right, it would take the overwhelming part of the list away


Sherri Jorgensen January 1, 2010 at 1:18 pm

I loved your list! Thanks!


Bonnie at The Boatwright Family January 1, 2010 at 6:10 pm

Love this list. Thanks!

For 17 years of marriage we have kept a pad of paper hanging on the fridge. The top part of the paper has a running list of household chores that need to get done. The bottom portion is where we jot down what we need at the grocery store as soon as we need it. It makes shopping time very quick – just rip the list off and go.

Works for us!


Destri January 1, 2010 at 9:10 pm

I so need to do this. If there is one thing that I hate more than anything it is grocery shopping. Half the time it is because I have to sit down and figure out what I need, so I end up going with out a list and coming home forgetting half the things I needed. Thanks for the comment Bonnie!


Brandy January 4, 2010 at 11:08 am

This was great! I need to set the time when I am on the computer! It’s addicting. And with that note, now that is 11 am, I might go get ready for the day! Have a fabulous day!


Suzanne January 5, 2010 at 7:20 am

Greaet ideas! I do some of these and it really helps make things easy for me. I tried making meals ahead and it’s great. A meal swap is also a super way not to cook every night.


Destri January 7, 2010 at 3:11 pm

You should do a post on that Susan!!


paula January 7, 2010 at 2:10 pm

so well said. great list. I will save it for inspiration.


candice June 29, 2010 at 7:33 am

I just stumbled across this site, and this link caught my eye. I taught a lesson last week about the six areas of wellness that we all need in our lives for provident living/well being: physical, spiritual, emotional, economical, intellectual and social. All your points just strengthen my belief that balance = a key aspect to happiness, so thanks for yet again reminding me of that and sharing some new tips for me to incorporate in my life :)


Elizabeth May 12, 2011 at 11:38 am

Great idea, this is something that I truly need to do. I feel like my life is out of control. :) Thank you!!!


sf June 9, 2011 at 9:51 pm

love it! good to share with my friends :D


Giselle July 11, 2011 at 12:06 pm

Wow! Love the post! Thanks so much for making this. I haven’t started to apply it all yet but I’m pleased to say I already do a couple of those on a regular basis… The rest I’m excited to start!!


Laura October 6, 2011 at 7:12 pm

WOW, this post is HELPFUL! :) You really have some good ideas. And I’ve been feeling very unbalanced lately. Thank you!


Christi November 7, 2011 at 7:48 pm

I love this! I’m a mother of three (Hayden 3, Maddison 2, and Jack 4 months). Recently I’ve started taking my children outside to play everyday for at least an hour. Some days we’re outside for up to three hours at a time! They love being outside, and I love having the chance to really get their imaginations going. Sometimes we just cuddle in the hammock, even having a snack picnic makes them so HAPPY!

Just having this time where my children have the opportunity to explore the outdoors and really PLAY makes me unwind. My youngest loves the outdoors already, and I have some very high energy creative youngsters on my hands. It’s amazing how active their imaginations are, and joining in makes it easy to forget all the petty things we tend to dwell on! I’ve also found that getting all that energy out helps my children take direction better. Which in turn helps me keep on schedule and in tune with their needs.


Destri January 30, 2012 at 6:26 am

Christi, I couldn’t agree more. When we are having one of those days, it’s amazing how just heading outside can turn a day around. Thanks so much for sharing!


Rhonda January 23, 2012 at 11:04 am

You have great ideas! Definitely on my List of To-Do’s! Thank you!


Destri January 29, 2012 at 9:48 pm

Thanks Rhonda! I need to read this list again and re-apply :)


Susanna March 21, 2012 at 1:56 pm

Wonderful ideas. Already do the weekly list mentioned in an earlier comment. Planning to begin freezer cooking again now that I have a freezer. My kids are grown, so instead of playing with them, I am going to take my puppy out for.playtime – she makes me laugh. I also need to timer when online. Time flies when browsing the web.



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