The Bullet List {Tiffany Bird}

by Destri on January 27, 2010

I distinctly recall while walking down the aisle toward my soon-to-be husband and a promise I made to myself.  A promise that I would never take this marriage for granted.  At the time I remember thinking nothing could stand in the way of nurturing the very foundation of what would be my family…..

And then we started our family.

In my head I slowly began forming what seemed to be legitimate arguments for why I had let that focus stray.  We had all the excuses that most couples with a young family have for why dating each other would have to wait.  I would list them but I am sure regardless of the stage your marriage is in you have those same justifications for your defense.  That is why I am so excited about today’s bullet list.

Tiffany from Simply Modern Mom has made a commitment to date her husband again, even if it has to be at home.  She has started a campaign for no excuses, no justification, and she is inviting everyone to join her.  She even has a contract that you can print, fill out and sign.  On a weekly basis she will report how they spent their date-what worked, what didn’t, and anything they learned from the experience.  Then she turns the tables and provides a link party for everyone to share their dates!  It’s brilliant!  Think of the ideas, the inspiration, and overall fun that will come of this.

Aside from this project Tiffany has an amazing little spot on the web that strives to help modern moms simplify their lives, with subjects ranging from sewing to kids crafts and even a fun little shop featuring her creations.  Be sure to check out her growing tutorials page as well, right after you read her list of course!

Tiffany Bird

A list of 16 creative at-home dates…. That’s enough to last 4 months

  • Discuss a book you both recently read. Create a cafe or coffee shop atmosphere at home.
  • Play the First Words game where you read a word card and the other person say the first thing that comes to mind. Here’s a free download of the First Words game.
  • Look through old photographs, wedding albums, other photo albums or scrapbooks.
  • Flip through both of your high school yearbooks.
  • Go through your digital music library to make a CD or playlist of each other’s favorite songs or songs that reminds you of each other.
  • Sketch out a blueprint of your dream house.
  • Borrow or purchase travel books and plan your dream vacation.
  • Write down and discuss each of your bucket lists.
  • Have a cookie or dessert baking contest. Each person try a different recipe and see which one you like best.
  • Browse through magazines and catalogs to a collage of clothing and fashion styles you would like to see the other person wear or try.
  • Watch family home videos.
  • Ice cream or soda or cheese tasting. Try flavors you have never tried before.
  • Set up a photo booth in your home, put the camera on timer and take pictures of the two of you.
  • Go through each room in the house and talk about what you would like to see done to the room.
  • Learn a new skill together – photography, painting, carpentry, massages.
  • Turn your story of how you met into a children’s book. Your kids will love reading it.

I love this list, everything on it is so original, simple and very do-able.  Sixteen ways I would have never thought of to spend an evening at home…love it.

A big thank you to Tiffany for sharing this list, and her adventure with us, I can’t wait to see what comes of it!

Now it’s your turn, what fun idea’s do you have for Tiffany that she can add to her date night’s at home?

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{ 21 comments… read them below or add one }

Maria January 28, 2010 at 7:07 am

Great list. I especially like the idea of turning the story of how you met into a childrens book for your kids. Some people are so smart.
As for my ideas: Play survivor, (take turns making strange mixtures out of the sauces in your fridge and make each other guess what is in it or make up some other insane challenges for each other)…..Get a bunch of glow sticks and dance around in the pitch black…..Each of you write down the three ways the other makes you feel the most loved, compare answers, it will open your eyes to if you are really showing love the way your spouse understands it best. Set up a small tent in your living room and watch a movie in it.

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Destri January 28, 2010 at 7:24 am

‘Get a bunch of glow sticks and dance around in the pitch black…..’ this is why I love you!
Great idea on writing down how the other person makes you feel most loved and compare, I have never thought to do that…..I will now, in a tent, with glow sticks….

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Jileen January 28, 2010 at 7:56 am

I have to ask, did Sim really dance around in the dark with glow sticks?

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Jileen January 28, 2010 at 8:14 am

We’ve started playing board games and card games at night after the kids go to bed. Not real exciting but sometimes it’s a nice change of pace rather than watching Man vs. Wild – which is the other thing that we enjoy doing together for a date night. Maybe we should bump it up a notch and pretend that we are stranded and eat snakes and elephant dung…:)

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Maria January 28, 2010 at 11:53 am

Not yet…..but he will when I tell him to. :) We did that in college sometimes and I have always wanted to do it agian.

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Kate January 28, 2010 at 6:34 pm

Now that would be a great addition to our ‘dance party’ !

Destri January 28, 2010 at 7:14 am

One night I got out all my facial stuff-cleanser, exfoliate, mask and moisturizer and gave my husband a facial.
I made a make shift bed on the floor, had him lay down and covered him with a blanket. put on a cd of beach music and lit some candles, just like a spa.
HE LOVED IT!!!!
He still talks about it to this day!
Haven’t done it forever, maybe for Valentine’s Day….

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Jade @ No Longer 25 January 29, 2010 at 8:36 am

This is a great idea, we did this ages ago but I’d forgotten how nice and relaxing it was. Thanks for reminding me, it’s on our list now.
Jade

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Debi (The Romantic Vineyard) January 28, 2010 at 8:25 am

I love the creativity and simplicity of this list! It’s amazing how fun it can be to do simple things at home together. These are the things a good friend of mine (who is getting married next week) posts everyday on Facebook. We tease her that we can’t wait for her to get married because every update tells us the mundane together things they’re doing together that is so much fun! Remember those days – when everything your spouse did was thrilling? That’s what date nights rekindle! I like to watch my husband when he doesn’t know it and study him. I love to remember how his presence always caused my heart to beat faster – it still does!

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Suzanne January 28, 2010 at 8:41 am

This is what I did one time, I made food for a picnic and got a favorite DVD and we went to the park ate and then got t he blankets & pillows and watched the movie in the back of the car (it’s a SUV so we could lay down) on our DVD player. He really liked it and it was romantic and fun!

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damaris January 28, 2010 at 10:06 am

these ideas are so inspiring. o.k, no more excuses to not have fun.

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AmberLee January 28, 2010 at 12:05 pm

this list rocks

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candace January 28, 2010 at 12:09 pm

You have to have a pretty thick skin for this one (and be a really good sport!)…

One of the all time funnest dates I had with my husband involved a thrift store, a small budget ($5 a piece), and an hour.

We each took our money and separated until we found the perfect (when I say perfect, I mean absolutely hideous) outfit for each other… to wear. I still remember mine. It was a mint green mini skirt with a coffee stain the size of Texas in the front, and a putrid pink polyester blouse with a gold floral print, green and white knee highs (think Wizard Of Oz) and lavender peep-toe pumps. His was equally awful. We laughed our heads off when we came out of the dressing rooms, and then went to lunch and a show in our outfits.

The looks we got were priceless!

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Tina January 29, 2010 at 8:08 am

I LOVE LOVE LOVE that idea. You would have to bring along a camera!

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tiffany January 28, 2010 at 6:22 pm

all amazing ideas everyone gave! I’m totally taking notes and you will probably see us doing some of those dates throughout the year. Thanks everyone for your ideas!
Tiffany {Simply Modern Mom}

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Kate January 28, 2010 at 6:33 pm

Oh boy I must the Loon of the bunch. Getting my husband to read a book…not likely, didn’t do high school year books in the UK, ice cream and soda would have to be chocolate flavours only… Don’t get me wrong I love the list, I really do… our date nights, the odd massage with Lush massage bars and boogie dance parties with crazy German Euro pop or Westlife ‘How am I suppose to leave you now?’ reminds us of early dating in St Maarten…. ahhh, and those were THE days and DATEs!

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Margo January 29, 2010 at 3:18 pm

My idea is an expanded game of the First Words game. (This is also a good activity for long car trips, by the way). It is called Association. Someone starts with a random word, the next person to take a turn says what the first word made them immediately think of, the next turn goes off of the last word.
Okay, this is hard to explain. Let me just give an example. First word: “Sky”
Second person says, “Sky makes me think of clouds.” The next person to go says “Clouds make me think of Snow.” And you just go on associating from there. The best part of this game is if a word or association requires some explaining, so the other person gets the connection made from one word to another. It is also fun when the word brings up a story or family memory you can recall and laugh over. When we play the game, we have a hard time getting through more than 8 or 9 words before someone thinks of an anecdote to share. Soon we find ourselves laughing. Good moments. And all from a randomly chosen word like ‘sky.’ Enjoy!

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Kelli January 4, 2012 at 9:42 am

When our son was a baby, my husband and I waited until he was asleep, then we all got in the truck and drove up to the top of a mountain (a small one) and watched the Perseid meteor shower laying on pillows and blankets in the truck bed while the baby slept in the cab. So romantic!

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Destri January 4, 2012 at 9:36 pm

I so love that idea Kelli. I think a meteor shower is coming up too! Thanks so much for sharing :)

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Ashley January 13, 2012 at 2:07 pm

Great post! My husband and I recently started blogging about our date nights – you can read about them here : http://www.neveradulldate.com/

So far, it’s been amazing! We’re gotten so much closer, we have more to talk about, and something to look forward to when we have a tough week at work.

One of our favourite at home dates has been to theme dinner and a movie. Recently we tried Italian night. I made cannelloni, picked up some gelato and rented The Godfather. It’s a fun twist on a classic at home date.

Thanks for the list. I love the idea about turning the story of how you met into a children’s book!

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Heather January 5, 2013 at 2:43 pm

We love to play Date Night Dare together. We complete the challenges then pass them on to someone else. You can find them at http://www.datenightdare.com. Way too fun! They are also super easy and totally within our price range.

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