Comments on: You Are In Charge Of Your Own Happiness

By: Destri

Destri — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 18:40:06 +0000

Kathy, I was having the same night, and your comment made me re-read this post…so thank you! It’s amazing how things happen like that. And your welcome

By: Kathy

Kathy — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 03:50:10 +0000

I just stumbled upon this today and I’m sitting here being angry with my husband. Your story came at the perfect time tonight and I am now going to do this for myself. I’m a stay at home mom of 4 girls and have been feeling unappreciated lately. It’s all up to me to change that! Thank you!

By: Melanie Hanni

Melanie Hanni — Sat, 17 Sep 2011 15:51:29 +0000

I love your website – thanks for excellent information – it is so true our happiness comes from within – no one but ourselves can make us happy – bloom where you are planted.

By: Destri

Destri — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 14:14:11 +0000

I know right?! He has come around on that front! I tell you it only takes once. The problem is now I like to go to the movies on my own and I don’t get the chance very often I did get to go see Harry Potter last night though. We haven’t been able to find a sitter, so decided we would have to go separately. You do what you have to do!

By: pinkcamojeep

pinkcamojeep — Mon, 04 Jul 2011 13:19:11 +0000

What a fantastic post. Love your honesty!! It ties in with the quote “love is a decision.” So grand.

You know what made ME laugh the hardest in your post? Your husband would consider a movie a good waste of daylight so he won’t go to a movie … but he will sit home and watch football and take a nap. That’s ironic. lol

Thanks for sharing your thought pattern. That was great!

By: Mindy

Mindy — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 19:51:23 +0000

I did something similar just recently with my husband but it was over going to church.
He turned around that morning and came with me. Married 30 years and still working on this concept. I too love that Abraham Lincoln quote. Happiness is located in our own attitudes and perspectives. Thanks for the reminder.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 03:18:17 +0000

So true, trying to teach myself that! Good read.

By: Denise

Denise — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 17:44:43 +0000

What a great post! My husband and I are together practically 24/7, 365 days a year. Plus, we now live in a rural area without much daily contact with others. Sometimes the constant exposure to one another really puts a strain on our relationship. I find it really helps to branch out on my own and take in a movie, a concert, etc. Moving to our country home full time and leaving suburbia was my husband’s great obsession. I have to admit I was very reluctant and a bit fearful of making the plunge. Slowly and surely I am finding my niche and carving out a place for myself in our new community. It’s taken me longer than I care to confess to realize that my husband is not responsible for my happiness and contentment in our new place. That is up to me!

Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone in this endeavor.

By: Losaline Latu

Losaline Latu — Sat, 19 Feb 2011 01:31:50 +0000

I was in love with your blog with all the info that you had shared!It has enlightened me to share with you a little on this subject!It is just an additive to your saying, “you are in charge of your own happiness!”
I usually tell myself a quote that is similar that has been told many times, “Happiness is a choice.” I am a mother of the ages of 5,4,3!Enough said, it can get frustrating, its a repeated life story for myself!Due to my husbands schedule I was given the decision to give everything up to be a stay at home mother. I enjoy it very much so, but there are times where I just want to crawl into a ball and cry!
This quote, “Happiness is a choice” came into play and triggered really hard about a week ago. I was preparing some things for church on a Saturday nite, and my husband was watching a basketball game. I asked him nicely, if he could take the kids in the room, put ther jammies on and tuck them in!This being a very complicated task for my husband stared as he looked at me like he would do it once the game was over. There began my frustration I would just have to deal with it and put my things aside and go and put the kids to bed! To my suprise, he did as he was asked….so I watched as I was already like myself planning for failure!lol….he returned and the task was done. About a couple minutes had passed and the kids one by one came out of the room and then was put back in bed by my husband after awhile my daughter came out. There I saw my daughter with tractor blue jammies on. I asked, “hon do you know shes wearing Zeniffs jamas (my son).” He laughed and he continued to put her in bed!
What, all of you dont know is I was taught a very hard lesson that had taked years of teaching. One Saturday nite with a simple scenario had triggered my heart and taught me a most valuable lesson. My husband is color blind, that explains why he had put blue jammies on my daughter. I learned that happiness is a choice I can choose to be angry with him but I chose to stop and not get frustrated but embrace, be grateful for his obeying my asking to put the children to bed.By choosing to stop and think and understand I had chosen happiness over frustration and anger!This taught me to understand and made me realize my husband did his best despite his weakness of beng color blind!
There are so many great blessings when we choose happiness!We learn to be more open minded, understanding, and it eliminates so much anger in our hearts but leaves us blessed and taught and a chance to better ourselves!

By: Amy @ Finer Things

Amy @ Finer Things — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:21:47 +0000

Such an important concept. We simply cannot “react” to the things outside of us and change because of them.